In Defense of the Process

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I love looking up information. If I am going to go to a new restaurant, buy something online, or basically anything else, I almost can’t stop myself from researching it and figuring out all that I can. I blame my mother for this, as I call her “The Queen of Research” because she’s the exact same way.


I am so much like this woman that it’s scary.

So it should be no surprise that I did the same thing when I finally decided that I wanted to start a blog. I started this research on the holy grail of blogging resources: Pinterest. I pinned tips, secrets, growth strategies, and much, much more.

At first, I was mostly just looking for inspiration and any tips that might help the set-up phase go a little more smoothly. What I found, though, were countless lists that said things like “10 Things I Wish I Knew When I Started Blogging” or “Tips All Successful Bloggers Know” or “NEVER Do This One Thing When Starting a New Blog.”

Several of these told me that before I launched my blog, I needed to build an email list, have at least 3-5 posts ready for people to read, have several more posts scheduled and ready to go, have a specific day (or days) that I post, and so on. Talk about intimidating!

Most of the justification for this was that the blogger didn’t grow as quickly as they wanted to without all of these resources, and that they wish they had just done it correctly in the first place instead of learning the hard way.

That’s fair, but reading these made me start to wonder if I’m the only person that thinks that lessons learned through experience are oftentimes the most valuable.

I’m amazed at the people that can throw that much effort into a blog and build it up in just a few weeks or months. That’s truly admirable! But I also know that I, personally, would not appreciate quick success like that without hard work and a small amount of struggle beforehand. Maybe that’s a personal flaw?

As cliche as it is, I believe that the journey is more important than the destination. My parents will tell you that they could tell me not to do something until they were blue in the face, but that I often needed to just learn the lesson through experience.

Sometimes, learning the lesson meant losing a lot of money (hello, trying to go back to school after I graduated and get a second degree). Other times, it meant heartbreak (bad boyfriends). A ton of times, it meant that I had to live with a bad haircut for a while, like below.


Mid-2000s fashion + middle school time period + braces + bad haircut = me looking smokin’ hot.

I will absolutely continue to research before I go on a new adventure. But I will also let myself enjoy the process and potentially fall flat on my face. It can hurt to learn this way, but the lesson seems to stick a little better.

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